Hi Everyone!
I wanted to let you know that we are moving to a new site (so excited and hope you like it!)
The new URL is http://www.strollwithoutshoes.com/
I hope you will visit often and let me know what you think!
Brenda
This Weekend...
Relax and read something new
Sip a cup of tea or cocoa and snuggle under a blanket (if it's cold where you are)
Write a note and mail it to an unsuspecting and deserving someone
Be nicer than usual (to yourself and others)
Give well-deserved compliments like they are going out of style
Enjoy a piece of fruit. Savor it.
Buy yourself flowers (even the guys). I just brought sunflowers home and they make me think back to my time in Mexico.
Cook something nice for yourself
Take a longer shower/bath than usual
Count a few blessings
Sip a cup of tea or cocoa and snuggle under a blanket (if it's cold where you are)
Write a note and mail it to an unsuspecting and deserving someone
Be nicer than usual (to yourself and others)
Give well-deserved compliments like they are going out of style
Enjoy a piece of fruit. Savor it.
Buy yourself flowers (even the guys). I just brought sunflowers home and they make me think back to my time in Mexico.
Cook something nice for yourself
Take a longer shower/bath than usual
Count a few blessings
What Stems From Your Branches?
"God judges the tree by its fruits and not by its roots."
Taken from the Manual of the Warrior of Light
Taken from the Manual of the Warrior of Light
Isn't It Sad...
When our expectations ruin a perfectly lovely moment in time? When that nagging voice of it not being as much as we expected dissolves the appreciation of the very real blessing that is before us? The experience might not be super-sized but, often times, we order "more" out of greed and fear of not having enough when a regular sized meal would fill us up just fine.
Sometimes more is just more.
Sometimes more is just more.
Agree or Disagree?
Jealousy, anger and resentment, corrode the soul while indifference causes it to go numb.
Remember:
That change, success, healthy relationships, self-esteem, happiness and productivity don't just fall into your lap, they take work.
Don't Personalize The Times
Simply work through them as best as you can and do your part to make them better.
What's Your Mind Diet?
Do you nourish your mind with soft, chewy thoughts that are easily digestible or are you constantly swallowing the rough stuff, tearing up your insides and causing you to feel pain every time you take down something new?
Do you over salt situations?
Do you add too much spice or is everything tasteless and bland?
Are they too bitter for most people's taste buds?
Are they sugary sweet?
How balanced is your palette to begin with?
Do you over salt situations?
Do you add too much spice or is everything tasteless and bland?
Are they too bitter for most people's taste buds?
Are they sugary sweet?
How balanced is your palette to begin with?
Just Do It!
Go out and live fearlessly today. Live as though you look how you want to look, have what you want to have and are collecting your dream-come-true tickets.
Convince yourself that you simply cannot fail.
How is your day different?
Convince yourself that you simply cannot fail.
How is your day different?
Have You Seen?
Wall-E?
Into The Wild?
Gone With the Wind?
Happy-Go-Lucky?
The Wrestler?
The Curious Case of Brad Pitt, er, Benjamin Button?
The Kate Flicks?
What did you think?
PS I just saw Wall-E last night. Lovely!
Into The Wild?
Gone With the Wind?
Happy-Go-Lucky?
The Wrestler?
The Curious Case of Brad Pitt, er, Benjamin Button?
The Kate Flicks?
What did you think?
PS I just saw Wall-E last night. Lovely!
Recent Posts on The New Cinderella Was a Liar Blog
His Porn, Your Problem (Main Page)
Speed Dating 101 (Dating and Mating)
10 Things to Love While Flying Solo (Flying Solo)
Is Lasting Love and Passion Possible (Main Page)
http://www.cinderellawasaliar.org
Speed Dating 101 (Dating and Mating)
10 Things to Love While Flying Solo (Flying Solo)
Is Lasting Love and Passion Possible (Main Page)
http://www.cinderellawasaliar.org
Alone Together
You walk on this Earth with your own two feet.
You see with your own two eyes.
You think with your own mind.
Your experiences are yours and yours alone.
We walk with others but we are all individuals and therefore responsible for our own lives.
Therefore responsible for our own sense of security.
Our own happiness.
You see with your own two eyes.
You think with your own mind.
Your experiences are yours and yours alone.
We walk with others but we are all individuals and therefore responsible for our own lives.
Therefore responsible for our own sense of security.
Our own happiness.
What Is Your Bait?
What can someone say or do that will have you losing focus and going off-balance by getting too upset or angry?
Meditate on ways to get control over your actions and stop taking the bait.
Take back your power.
Meditate on ways to get control over your actions and stop taking the bait.
Take back your power.
Agree or Disagree?
By practicing nonresistance and accepting what is and not wasting time wishing things were different we can actually work to make things what we really want them to be.
Silly!
Last night, a friend of mine got very upset with me for being "too nice".
Isn't that just the funniest thing to get upset over?
It's like when people tell other people they are "too sensitive".
Maybe some people are "too mean" and "too insensitive".
Why does critical carry more weight than compassionate?
Isn't that just the funniest thing to get upset over?
It's like when people tell other people they are "too sensitive".
Maybe some people are "too mean" and "too insensitive".
Why does critical carry more weight than compassionate?
Agree or Disagree?
It may take more work and allow less opportunity for instant gratification but being a decent human being with a solid value system has longer-lasting benefits.
Just a Thought...
Having a discussion motivated by a desire to understand is far different from yelling and screaming and bullying as a way to get another person to concede. Arguing for the sake of arguing isn't exactly the most productive way to spend our time, right?
What if we simply allowed others to disagree with us without allowing it to put our ego in a choke hold?
What if we simply allowed others to disagree with us without allowing it to put our ego in a choke hold?
Agree or Disagree?
We often do more damage when we frantically try and prevent damage from being done.
Control of The Mind
So many thoughts.
So many choices.
So many worries.
So many regrets.
So many fears.
So many needs.
The mind goes on and on.
A wheel that will never stop...but you can get off of it and watch it from the other side of the room.
You can relax and even meditate on the motion of the thoughts that go round and round.
You are not your thoughts.
Reality is often as we perceive it to be.
How do you quiet your mind?
So many choices.
So many worries.
So many regrets.
So many fears.
So many needs.
The mind goes on and on.
A wheel that will never stop...but you can get off of it and watch it from the other side of the room.
You can relax and even meditate on the motion of the thoughts that go round and round.
You are not your thoughts.
Reality is often as we perceive it to be.
How do you quiet your mind?
The Insatiable Hunger
Want often leads to want with very little satisfaction being brought about once we have taken a bite of the food we were craving not so long ago. Suddenly, the sweet strawberry isn't sweet enough, the size six must become a four, the wrinkle-less face must become pore less, the big office must become the bigger office, the millionaire must become a billionaire.
Greed is corrosive and when combined with the ego, it's toxic to all happiness.
When you've eaten something good and you're full, be satisfied. Overeat and you'll likely wind up with indigestion.
Thoughts?
Greed is corrosive and when combined with the ego, it's toxic to all happiness.
When you've eaten something good and you're full, be satisfied. Overeat and you'll likely wind up with indigestion.
Thoughts?
Whoops!
Many years ago, while vacationing during spring break in Mexico, I went to a local churrascarria.. The meal was an all-you-can-eat buffet of some of the best meats, cheeses, tortilla's and rice I have ever had.
My friends and I ate and ate and I foolishly blurted out, "Wow, this is so cheap."
The waiter looked at me and said, "For You."
I was so ashamed of myself that I nearly burst into tears.
It was one of the most humbling moments of my life and I have often thought of that young man in the ten years since that trip.
Recently, I had a friend go on and on about how "cheap" something I would love to do was. I have been saving for this thing for quite some time and find it to be quite difficult to swing. It reminded me of how relative certain terms are.
Just wanted to share this. If we cannot learn from our thoughtless and embarrassing moments, what good are they?
I definitely learned from mine. Have you any to share?
My friends and I ate and ate and I foolishly blurted out, "Wow, this is so cheap."
The waiter looked at me and said, "For You."
I was so ashamed of myself that I nearly burst into tears.
It was one of the most humbling moments of my life and I have often thought of that young man in the ten years since that trip.
Recently, I had a friend go on and on about how "cheap" something I would love to do was. I have been saving for this thing for quite some time and find it to be quite difficult to swing. It reminded me of how relative certain terms are.
Just wanted to share this. If we cannot learn from our thoughtless and embarrassing moments, what good are they?
I definitely learned from mine. Have you any to share?
The Big Choices
Will you hold on or let go?
Will you fight or flee?
Will you relax or keep moving?
Will you hold grudges or forgive?
Will you laugh or cry?
Will you change or stay the same?
Will you keep doing what you have always done or change it up?
There are times when all are appropriate.
Will you fight or flee?
Will you relax or keep moving?
Will you hold grudges or forgive?
Will you laugh or cry?
Will you change or stay the same?
Will you keep doing what you have always done or change it up?
There are times when all are appropriate.
Question:
What good is doing all of the work and achieving your goals if you don't even appreciate the success you have earned when it comes along?
You Can Do it!
You can work through your problems.
You can stand on your own two feet and stand tall.
You can become the person you want to be.
You can overcome adversity.
You can let go of the pain.
You can start over.
You can love again.
You can achieve more than you realize.
You can live your best life.
You can be your best self.
Don't listen to anyone who says you can't.
You can stand on your own two feet and stand tall.
You can become the person you want to be.
You can overcome adversity.
You can let go of the pain.
You can start over.
You can love again.
You can achieve more than you realize.
You can live your best life.
You can be your best self.
Don't listen to anyone who says you can't.
Do What You Feel Is Right
There will always be those who snicker and judge. There will always be the naysayers and those who remind you that you should be doing something other than what you are doing but this is your life and there are special lessons for you to learn. Maybe you shouldn't be doing what you are doing but you'll learn that in due time.
Then again, maybe you should be doing exactly what you are doing now.
Follow your heart, listen to your gut and use your good sense along the way.
Then again, maybe you should be doing exactly what you are doing now.
Follow your heart, listen to your gut and use your good sense along the way.
It Comes Down To You
There can be words of wisdom,
Warnings, advice,
Tender encouragements,
and even little white lies to help you along
But in the end...
You must decide what to do.
And live with it.
Warnings, advice,
Tender encouragements,
and even little white lies to help you along
But in the end...
You must decide what to do.
And live with it.
New Cinderella Blog!
Hi Guys and Gals!
I am so excited to announce the new Cinderella Was a Liar Blog which can be found at http://www.cinderellawasaliar.org
I hope all of you will visit the blog frequently, comment and share your thoughts on the topics and pieces (and your amazing insight and wisdom as well!)
It means so much to me that you read my posts and I truly love hearing from all of you!
Check it out and let me know what you think!
Brenda
I am so excited to announce the new Cinderella Was a Liar Blog which can be found at http://www.cinderellawasaliar.org
I hope all of you will visit the blog frequently, comment and share your thoughts on the topics and pieces (and your amazing insight and wisdom as well!)
It means so much to me that you read my posts and I truly love hearing from all of you!
Check it out and let me know what you think!
Brenda
Isn't It Funny...
How people who are not living lives we want to live always have something to say about the one we are living?
Assumptions...
Rarely hit the bulls eye but it seems as though people assume as often as they breathe.
Why do you think this is?
Why do you think this is?
Your Choices Matter...
In fact, they could change the whole life of another human being in ways you cannot even comprehend.
Believe In Miracles...
And, if you start to scoff at the idea, look in the mirror for proof.
You're here.
You're alive.
You have survived so much.
You have learned so much.
You're still searching, living, seeking and loving.
You're still on your feet.
Wow!
You're here.
You're alive.
You have survived so much.
You have learned so much.
You're still searching, living, seeking and loving.
You're still on your feet.
Wow!
Remember:
You are stronger, wiser, lovelier and more amazing than you think. There is a special light inside of you that cannot be duplicated. It is up to you to put it in your window and allow it to shine where others are able to benefit from its special glow.
No One Has It All Figured Out...
Don't assume that you are alone in your weaknesses and worries. Work through them as best as you can and reach out; you just might find someone who can not only relate but help you work through it faster.
Sometimes...
The hurt just walks with us a little longer on the journey than we would like for it to but that doesn't mean we have to ignore the beauty that surrounds us, the joy that joins us or the destination we are aiming to get to.
Who You Are Is OK.
We try to be what they want us to be, what they told us to be, what they said we should have been.
We try to look as they say we should look, act how they say we should act all the while feeling the way we feel and wondering why we don't feel differently.
We try to want what they say we should want, even if it is more or less or simply different than what we're truly aching to have.
What about who we really are, what we really think, what we really want and feel?
When do we get to be both authentic and accepted at the same time?
You can be here and I hope you find other places you feel respected, accepted and appreciated as well.
We try to look as they say we should look, act how they say we should act all the while feeling the way we feel and wondering why we don't feel differently.
We try to want what they say we should want, even if it is more or less or simply different than what we're truly aching to have.
What about who we really are, what we really think, what we really want and feel?
When do we get to be both authentic and accepted at the same time?
You can be here and I hope you find other places you feel respected, accepted and appreciated as well.
Forgive Me
For writing a little less. I have been working on something new for you guys and gals and also dealing with a very testy computer. I promise to write more!
Hope you are all having a wonderful 2009 thus far and know how much I appreciate our walks together.
Brenda
Hope you are all having a wonderful 2009 thus far and know how much I appreciate our walks together.
Brenda
Small Steps To Joy
On December 31, I took a bunch of flash cards, cut them into five strips and put notes such as
"Do something selfless for someone today"
"Fill a bag full of clothes and donate it today"
"Organize something you have been putting off today"
"Meditate on your blessings for at least 10 minutes today"
and other "small steps to joy" on them. Each day, I pull one out of an old ice cream cone box and I make sure to do what it says to do (that's the point :). So far, I have been more social, more organized and paid more attention to the "little things" thanks to my little "Purpose Box". I thought you might like to create one of your own.
I made enough notes for six months and add 10 new ones each week.
Just a thought :)
"Do something selfless for someone today"
"Fill a bag full of clothes and donate it today"
"Organize something you have been putting off today"
"Meditate on your blessings for at least 10 minutes today"
and other "small steps to joy" on them. Each day, I pull one out of an old ice cream cone box and I make sure to do what it says to do (that's the point :). So far, I have been more social, more organized and paid more attention to the "little things" thanks to my little "Purpose Box". I thought you might like to create one of your own.
I made enough notes for six months and add 10 new ones each week.
Just a thought :)
Resolutions After a Break Up/Divorce
Four Break-Up Resolutions to Get your New Year Off to the Right Start
(From my Divorce360.com column)
The new year is seen by many as a time for fresh starts and a renewed sense of self. While some hit the ground running with a deep sense of motivation and excitement, there are others who are downright overwhelmed by what steps to take first. This can be especially true after a life-altering event like divorce. If you are ready to start over, you're in luck. Read on for four resolutions you'll be happy to keep.
Accept your Past and Move On:
There are all kinds of reasons people do what they do, say what they say and don't do what they should but spending your life trying to figure out what they all are is not going to do much to help you live in the moments of your here and now.
Take Action!
Give yourself time to grieve the ending of your marriage but don't set your grieving on "repeat" and allow your negative thoughts and feelings become habits. That's right, you're going to have to make conscious efforts to move through the grieving process and into your new life. The fact is, most men and women don't just "snap out of it" one morning which means that you could spend years trying to psychoanalyze your ex or sort through old memories that leave you wondering how you could have avoided your divorce or seen it coming sooner and lose out on dozens of chances to rebuild. Accept that whatever happened, happened. Get the help of a qualified counselor to help you sort through your pain, be grateful for the lessons you have learned and give yourself permission to move out of the pain of the past and into your present where you can work towards a better, brighter future.
Make Friends with Change:
There are many men and women who view change as something negative, something that should be feared and avoided at all costs but the truth is that change is a necessary part of growth, development and success.
Take Action!
Think about all of the amazing things, people, experiences and opportunities that required you to change. If you have been unhappy, unhealthy and/or feeling stuck in a rut, change is exactly what you need to get back on track. Stay flexible and limber and know that you deserve room to grow, develop, rediscover and renew just like everyone and everything else.
Carve Out a Space For Yourself In The World and Don't Apologize For It!
It may seem noble to constantly put yourself on the back burner while you focus all of your attention on those around you but the truth is, unless you feel secure, healthy and appreciated, most of the energy you put out will be sprinkled with exhaustion, resentment or a feeling of being unappreciated and/or overwhelmed. Instead of sacrificing your needs, desires, health, dreams and whatever else, make time for your life in your life.
Take Action!
Whether you equate people-pleasing with being "lovable" or your need for control has you taking on more than you'd care to handle, stop. Tell your brother to hire a sitter, tell your ex to be on time, tell your colleague she needs to find someone else to cover for her and take steps each and every day to make your choices based on what you feel is fair and acceptable and not what you feel guilty about saying no to.
Learn From your Mistakes:
No one is perfect and it isn't unlikely that you have said and done things that have led to outcomes you didn't anticipate or particularly enjoy. Instead of beating yourself over the head for your trip-up's, see them for what they truly are; opportunities to learn and grow into the better, wiser, more polished you.
Take Action!
Whether it's related to your relationships, career, self-image or some other aspect of your life, think about the life you have had and the one you'd like to have all the while focusing on ways you can act and react differently. If you were too passive in the past, think about how being more assertive might benefit you. If you didn't trust your gut, make a promise to rely more on your instincts. We cannot change others but we can change how we think, act and react which can have major and lasting impacts not only on how we see the world but also how the world sees and reacts to us.
Relationships expert Brenda Della Casa is a journalist and casting director who has spent the last seven years interviewing single men and women for a variety of television shows and articles. She is the author of "Cinderella Was a Liar." See her Web site at cinderellawasaliar.com.
(From my Divorce360.com column)
The new year is seen by many as a time for fresh starts and a renewed sense of self. While some hit the ground running with a deep sense of motivation and excitement, there are others who are downright overwhelmed by what steps to take first. This can be especially true after a life-altering event like divorce. If you are ready to start over, you're in luck. Read on for four resolutions you'll be happy to keep.
Accept your Past and Move On:
There are all kinds of reasons people do what they do, say what they say and don't do what they should but spending your life trying to figure out what they all are is not going to do much to help you live in the moments of your here and now.
Take Action!
Give yourself time to grieve the ending of your marriage but don't set your grieving on "repeat" and allow your negative thoughts and feelings become habits. That's right, you're going to have to make conscious efforts to move through the grieving process and into your new life. The fact is, most men and women don't just "snap out of it" one morning which means that you could spend years trying to psychoanalyze your ex or sort through old memories that leave you wondering how you could have avoided your divorce or seen it coming sooner and lose out on dozens of chances to rebuild. Accept that whatever happened, happened. Get the help of a qualified counselor to help you sort through your pain, be grateful for the lessons you have learned and give yourself permission to move out of the pain of the past and into your present where you can work towards a better, brighter future.
Make Friends with Change:
There are many men and women who view change as something negative, something that should be feared and avoided at all costs but the truth is that change is a necessary part of growth, development and success.
Take Action!
Think about all of the amazing things, people, experiences and opportunities that required you to change. If you have been unhappy, unhealthy and/or feeling stuck in a rut, change is exactly what you need to get back on track. Stay flexible and limber and know that you deserve room to grow, develop, rediscover and renew just like everyone and everything else.
Carve Out a Space For Yourself In The World and Don't Apologize For It!
It may seem noble to constantly put yourself on the back burner while you focus all of your attention on those around you but the truth is, unless you feel secure, healthy and appreciated, most of the energy you put out will be sprinkled with exhaustion, resentment or a feeling of being unappreciated and/or overwhelmed. Instead of sacrificing your needs, desires, health, dreams and whatever else, make time for your life in your life.
Take Action!
Whether you equate people-pleasing with being "lovable" or your need for control has you taking on more than you'd care to handle, stop. Tell your brother to hire a sitter, tell your ex to be on time, tell your colleague she needs to find someone else to cover for her and take steps each and every day to make your choices based on what you feel is fair and acceptable and not what you feel guilty about saying no to.
Learn From your Mistakes:
No one is perfect and it isn't unlikely that you have said and done things that have led to outcomes you didn't anticipate or particularly enjoy. Instead of beating yourself over the head for your trip-up's, see them for what they truly are; opportunities to learn and grow into the better, wiser, more polished you.
Take Action!
Whether it's related to your relationships, career, self-image or some other aspect of your life, think about the life you have had and the one you'd like to have all the while focusing on ways you can act and react differently. If you were too passive in the past, think about how being more assertive might benefit you. If you didn't trust your gut, make a promise to rely more on your instincts. We cannot change others but we can change how we think, act and react which can have major and lasting impacts not only on how we see the world but also how the world sees and reacts to us.
Relationships expert Brenda Della Casa is a journalist and casting director who has spent the last seven years interviewing single men and women for a variety of television shows and articles. She is the author of "Cinderella Was a Liar." See her Web site at cinderellawasaliar.com.
Your Sunshine
Keep smiling and hoping,
dreaming and laughing,
find your joy where you can...
and appreciate it.
Hold it close to your heart,
cherish the moments when you feel good,
and remember them when life gets you down.
The reasons to be unhappy will always be there
but you can choose to smile.
Choose to laugh and not take it all so seriously.
You deserve to be happy sometimes too, you know...
dreaming and laughing,
find your joy where you can...
and appreciate it.
Hold it close to your heart,
cherish the moments when you feel good,
and remember them when life gets you down.
The reasons to be unhappy will always be there
but you can choose to smile.
Choose to laugh and not take it all so seriously.
You deserve to be happy sometimes too, you know...
Movies For Your Queue
I don't know about you but I am pretty much obsessed with Netflix. I thought I might share some of my fav movies for those of you who have this lovely little delivery service (genius!) Feel free to share below :)
Secretary (Such a great flick. Loads of saucy fun)
Gone with The Wind (I have to watch this at least once every three or four years and just ordered it to watch this week!)
The Gentleman's Agreement (Gregory Peck is just...sigh)
Love, Actually and Bridget Jones (Just try being in a bad mood after these)
Breakfast at Tiffany's (If you have not seen it or have not seen it in ages, rent!)
The Seven Year Itch, Don't Bother to Knock and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. Marilyn is wonderful in all of them :)
All About Eve (My favorite movie ever)
The Changeling
Four Rooms
Frida (Wonderful!)
Banditas and Zorro (I and II). Guilty Pleasures
Elizabeth (Incredible story, movie and performances)
A League of Their Own
Giant (It's long but it's great)
The Women (The Original is Brilliant, The Remake it painful)
What Movies should we have in our queue?
Secretary (Such a great flick. Loads of saucy fun)
Gone with The Wind (I have to watch this at least once every three or four years and just ordered it to watch this week!)
The Gentleman's Agreement (Gregory Peck is just...sigh)
Love, Actually and Bridget Jones (Just try being in a bad mood after these)
Breakfast at Tiffany's (If you have not seen it or have not seen it in ages, rent!)
The Seven Year Itch, Don't Bother to Knock and Gentlemen Prefer Blondes. Marilyn is wonderful in all of them :)
All About Eve (My favorite movie ever)
The Changeling
Four Rooms
Frida (Wonderful!)
Banditas and Zorro (I and II). Guilty Pleasures
Elizabeth (Incredible story, movie and performances)
A League of Their Own
Giant (It's long but it's great)
The Women (The Original is Brilliant, The Remake it painful)
What Movies should we have in our queue?
What are the things from which you derive your confidence?
Are you focused on what you look like?
Does every wrinkle or pound cause you to feel anxious and worried?
Are you only as good as your job?
Do the clothes or jewelry you are wearing or the bags you are carrying prove your worth?
Are you collecting Facebook or MySpace "friends" to show how "loved" you are?
Do you feel that your life has less significance without a ring on your finger or a deed in your name?
What might happen if you lost your job, your labels or actually needed to call on one of your "friends" for significant help?
How do you think your worth would withstand the hit?
Does every wrinkle or pound cause you to feel anxious and worried?
Are you only as good as your job?
Do the clothes or jewelry you are wearing or the bags you are carrying prove your worth?
Are you collecting Facebook or MySpace "friends" to show how "loved" you are?
Do you feel that your life has less significance without a ring on your finger or a deed in your name?
What might happen if you lost your job, your labels or actually needed to call on one of your "friends" for significant help?
How do you think your worth would withstand the hit?
The Gift of a Day
Each day offers us a unique opportunity to experience life, to reevaluate the life we have been living and refocus our energy to help us learn more, enjoy more, create more, understand more and develop more than we have thus far. Seize each and every day and allow it to blossom and unfold before you.
I Was Amazed
I looked over at the moon and at the stars shining with all of their might through a thick, foggy haze.
If stars were humans, how dark might the sky be tonight? How quickly might the flickering lights die down as, one by one, they convinced themselves and one another it was not worth the effort?
The stars shine, not because we can see them, but because of their dedication to their own authenticity, and because of that dedication, we get to enjoy a beautiful, starry night.
I think they are just lovely.
If stars were humans, how dark might the sky be tonight? How quickly might the flickering lights die down as, one by one, they convinced themselves and one another it was not worth the effort?
The stars shine, not because we can see them, but because of their dedication to their own authenticity, and because of that dedication, we get to enjoy a beautiful, starry night.
I think they are just lovely.
Don't Forget
That all we truly have is this very moment and in this moment, we have a choice. We can choose to be happy, grateful and kind or to feel resentful, angry and helpless.
We all have problems, fears, injustices to deal with.
We all have people in our lives who are less than lovely, disappointments and trials to endure.
We all have blessings.
You can choose to appreciate them or take them for granted while you focus on the negative.
It really is that simple.
What do you think?
We all have problems, fears, injustices to deal with.
We all have people in our lives who are less than lovely, disappointments and trials to endure.
We all have blessings.
You can choose to appreciate them or take them for granted while you focus on the negative.
It really is that simple.
What do you think?
Sometimes...
Those who shine the brightest lights expose the darkest shadows in those around them which can have quite an impact on their more negative peers.
But that still doesn't mean you should stop shining.
But that still doesn't mean you should stop shining.
Remember:
You are not your thoughts.
You are not your words.
You are not your actions.
You are something much bigger so if the thoughts, words, actions are not sending an accurate message out to the world on your behalf or if they are bringing you relationships and circumstances that make you uncomfortable, you can change them without any fear of eliminating the essence of you.
You are not your words.
You are not your actions.
You are something much bigger so if the thoughts, words, actions are not sending an accurate message out to the world on your behalf or if they are bringing you relationships and circumstances that make you uncomfortable, you can change them without any fear of eliminating the essence of you.
If You Were a Character In a Movie, Who Would You Be?
The Femme Fatal?
The Best Friend?
The Nameless Extra?
The Hero?
The Bad Guy/Girl?
The Underdog?
The Best Friend?
The Nameless Extra?
The Hero?
The Bad Guy/Girl?
The Underdog?
It's Hard to Believe Sometimes...
But most people are not as critical of you as you are of yourself.
Ultimately, It's Our Choice...
Will we crumble under the weight of the negative and painful things that have happened to us or will we address what has been said and done, accept that it happened, work through our feelings about it and give ourselves a chance at happiness, peace and true emotional freedom.
Just a Thought...
If we want people to come to us and share with us more often maybe we should focus on being the kind of person they feel "safe" sharing with. If we are critical, judgemental, dismissive, untrustworthy negative or an otherwise unappealing audience, what incentive do they have to share and open up to us?
Great Expectations
It's wonderful to want the very best out of yourself and life but when the heavy expectations you are carrying cause you to collapse on a constant basis maybe it is time for a little adjustment?
What do you think?
What do you think?
Who Is In Your Network?
Think of at least three people you have in your life that you can count on and enjoy.
Sprinkle a Little Joy Today
Make someone laugh
Do something kind
Reach out to someone
Buy the guy/gal in line behind you a cup of coffee
Send a little note via email or in the mail
Bake cookies for someone
Smile at a stranger
Hold out a door
Offer to carry someone's bags
Don't get upset over silly things
Invite someone out for a cup of tea
Whatever you do, do it with a smile today.
Do something kind
Reach out to someone
Buy the guy/gal in line behind you a cup of coffee
Send a little note via email or in the mail
Bake cookies for someone
Smile at a stranger
Hold out a door
Offer to carry someone's bags
Don't get upset over silly things
Invite someone out for a cup of tea
Whatever you do, do it with a smile today.
Simple
The whole world can tell you your dreams are silly and it doesn't matter if you believe in them.
The whole world can tell you that your dreams are achievable but it doesn't matter if you don't believe in them.
The whole world can tell you that your dreams are achievable but it doesn't matter if you don't believe in them.
What Are You Aching To Try?
It's a bit simple for me right now...but I want to bake red velvet cupcakes with homemade cream cheese frosting and see what they taste like. It's such a weird looking thing that red velvet.
What about you?
What about you?
Your Choice
You can do the work or you can give up.
You can be honest or you can be deceptive.
You can be kind or you can be nasty.
You can be open-minded or you can be judgemental.
You can accept change or you can resist it and feel resentful.
You can let it go or you can carry a grudge.
You can move forward or you can be left behind by a world in motion.
You can live in your past or you can glance through it like a lovely memory book on breaks from your present.
You can assume or you can try and understand.
You can be a slave to your ego or not.
You choose how you will be. How you will live. How you will act and react.
Agree or Disagree?
You can be honest or you can be deceptive.
You can be kind or you can be nasty.
You can be open-minded or you can be judgemental.
You can accept change or you can resist it and feel resentful.
You can let it go or you can carry a grudge.
You can move forward or you can be left behind by a world in motion.
You can live in your past or you can glance through it like a lovely memory book on breaks from your present.
You can assume or you can try and understand.
You can be a slave to your ego or not.
You choose how you will be. How you will live. How you will act and react.
Agree or Disagree?
Think About It
How sad would it be to spend your whole life begging the universe for blessings while ignoring all of those that currently surround you?
Dream a Little Dream...
Make a little plan.
Perform a little action.
Achieve a little milestone.
Be a little happier.
Perform a little action.
Achieve a little milestone.
Be a little happier.
There Is a Time For Change...
and a time to relish in the parts of yourself and your life that fit just right.
Giving of Self
When was the last time you donated your time and energy without the least bit of resentment or hopes for something in return?
Trust
It is an essential part of the foundation of all relationships be they platonic or romantic. In what ways are you trustworthy? In what ways could you serve to be a little more so?
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